can i just be honest, being a mother is hard, being a wife is emotional, and trying to always get things right, and be the best at my job can be exhausting. I second guess every decision i make, wondering will i be the one that screws my kids up, will they turn around and blame me when they get older for why they have some short comings? i'm always trying to be the good wife, understanding, loving, giving Benji what he needs, but i always feel i'm not enough, which is why i have to release the idea of being enough, i will never be enough, i will never be all that i want to be, i have to let HIM, be what i can't, i can't do it on my own, i'm not good enough with out His love and guidance leading me. but still i struggle, still i fall, still i try to be.....


i want my kids to look back and say, i was a good mother, not just she did her best for what she knew, i want them to feel what i try to be for them, in all ways everyday. i fail many times, i get caught up in my needs thinking i need to get away, i need things for me, and forget that what i am right now, is what God has called me to be, a mom, a wife, an example of His great love, but i forget to let Him be, let Him speak, how stupid it is to try to represent God with out letting him have His place. to say what He is, but not show who He is.

yes there is a time to rebuild myself, to step outside of what i am, to replenish, to do things for me, but only with the intentions of coming back stronger to be what i am called to be at this very time.

i read this scripture today, and i love it, it represents the very heart i have, of the truth of what He wants for my house

It takes wisdom to have a good family
and it takes understanding to make it strong.
It takes knowledge to fill a home
with rare and beautiful treasures.
                                   proverbs 24:3-4

i can't do it with out His wisdom, in all ways i need to seek Him first, and ask questions, is this what you want for my kids, how can i love them more, how can i make sure they will see you through this, when i'm yelling or feeling insecure, how does that represent you, i have to stop and remember that these are not souly my kids, they are His first, the way I love my husband, is it right before His eyes, is it the way He wants me to love benji, and the only way I will know is to ask for His great wisdom, His knowledge of knowing better then me.
one thing i often struggle with is understanding, understanding means way more then i know, it's stepping back sometime and offering true compassion, seeing things through others eyes, and His ways, it's understanding with a humbleness that only He can give, I can' t be what He wants me to be with out understanding His love and His ways, more then my own. It's feeling what maybe my kids, or husband is feeling above myself. And with His knowledge, and allowing Him to teach, being a student instead of thinking of myself as the ruler, the leader, what I think is right, it's stepping down from my own platform i built for myself, and surrendering it to Him, so I can see that the rare and beautiful treasures that fill my home, are not the stuff I fill it with, but the people He has given me. In each way, my husband is a rare treasure designed perfectly by God. Brennan, Leighton, Hayden, Cohen and Ashlyn, are His greatest beautiful treasures He has given me, that make my home full.

Today, and everyday that I am blessed to live on this earth, i pray i will remember to seek His wisdom, His understanding, His knowledge, to see the true, rare and beautiful treasures that fill my house that makes it so, so good.

"it's good"  (in the voice of Jim Carey playing bruce almighty)

where are you?.

i've been doing a lot of thinking about different passages of the bible, really trying to grasp what God is trying to reveal about who he is, what he's trying to teach us about his word, i know everyone gets something different out of the bible. and i'm no scholar, that is for sure, i tend to find the simple truths, maybe truths that some understood when they were 5. i'm finding new meanings, new truths to wear i'm at right now, but maybe by posting these things, i can speak to some one else about who God is too, i've always carried a heart for others, sometimes i carry it to heavily, but non the less, i care, i want others and myself to understand God for who he is, loving, never leaving, a God who believes in us, let me say that again, a God who believes in us, yes he wants us to believe in him, but he also would have to believe in us, to give us all those second chances, to send his son to die for us, to let us do his work, to use us...just think about it, God believes in us, he believes were good, he believes we can be what he created us to be, we have the greatest cheerleader on our side.

i was thinking about when Adam and Eve sinned, after they made clothing out of fig leaves, after they hid, and God asked "where are you?" all my life i wondered why God asked where they were? i mean he's God didn't he already know, didn't he already know this was going to happen, doesn't he know where we all are? i understand that something happened, separation from God to man, that the connection they once has was lost at this point, and not only did Adam and Eve feel it, but God did to, but couldn't he see where they were at? why did he have to ask? the simpleness that it is, is they had to say, to confess where they were at, to understand what they did, for God to make it right. this was the first confessing of sins, i don't know why i'm just getting this now, but the only thing i know, is today i hear God asking me

Where are you?

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thankful for ...........




reading the bible in a year, provide by Joy FM(hopefully I will make it)


my super comfy slippers that i never take off when i'm home


the gift Leighton made me, with the sweetest note waiting for me on my nightstand last night

dropping in

i've been cleaning my house, it's a mess, as always, my aunt dropped by this morning before i got to even touch it, i invited her in, embarrassed by the way it looked, what she must have thought! i try to straighten up every day before benji gets home...so he doesn't think, what did you do all day, i have laundry baskets piled up, bathrooms are a mess, kids rooms are a mess, my room is the worst! and I think what would happen if more people dropped by? what would they think, what would they see? what if they were welcomed to just open the door, and walk in...would they catch me yelling at my kids, would they see me undone, in my pajama's, could they walk in on an argument with my husband, what would they see if i let them in to my real daily life, not on the days i clean up before, the days i invite people over, and make everything look presentable, this got me thinking, is it just my house or is it my whole life that can feel this way?

I'm a mess, not perfect, do i let people in to see me on a daily basis, or do i wait until i've cleaned myself up, the days i feel strong and not a mess,as jj. heller sings who will love me for me, when i'm weak, when i question, when i'm unsure, when i'm hurting about something small, when i feel i could crack at any minute, do i lock up myself, and wait to invite until i'm presentable? most of the time the answer is yes, but i know you have to let friends/family in, to see the real you, to know they aren't' going to judge the mess you're living in, the imperfect you. God has put them in your life for a reason, to be a support, to speak those words you need to hear, to listen, to love, but for some reason, what God does and gives to be good, Lies, come to steal, kill and destroy the good of what God has placed in our lives, and here i am saying, yes i have believed those lies for way to long.

i'm believing for a changed self, that God would help me with my flaws, but more importantly that He would help me to be me, to let others in, take me for who i am, in my weakest moments, to open my doors, and say come in, this is me, I can't do it alone, didn't He give us friends, people to share things with.....

Those people......



who will love me for me?




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today I am thankful for

happy expressions!! kids wear it best!

what's your excuse?

one of the things I wanted to do this year was read the bible in a year, honestly i've already fell behind...just like i always do,
anyways..

I'm in Genesis, and I'm reading about Abraham and Sarah, we've all heard the story, God has promised them a child, a son, God comes to their home, and tells Abraham, Sarah will give birth to a son, Sarah who is eavesdropping, laughs, she says, my husband and I are too old to have a baby, as I read this, I thought to myself, what's my excuse, for not believing in God's plans for my life, for his purpose, for him giving me my greatest desires. Sarah's was she thought she was to old, she saw what she thought was her flaw, her age, she thought it was to late for her.

I just said yesterday while on the phone with my friend, maybe it's to late for me, maybe i've missed my opportunity. Not with Sarah it wasn't, the Lord heard her laugh, and say she was too old, He said Is there anything to hard for the Lord? Sarah you will have a son.

So here I am, going back in my head, remembering my excuses, what I think are my flaws, why I thought it was to late for me...

I'm not good enough, i'm not smart enough, i haven't believed enough, i made that mistake, i'm not as good as that person....so many excuses, but God doesn't see those, He see's the truth in what He's doing, in what he has planned, and just like Sarah, called out on her lie, when she said I didn't laugh, and God simply said, "no you did laugh", here I sit today being called out on the lies i think, the lies i've believed, and God is calling me out on them, Saying "is there anything to hard for the Lord?"

the answer is simply No.

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thankful...

for coffee!! can i get an amen!



for the amazing canvas that was a gift, that i love!! it's us as art, how much better can it get


snow days!


for God's word, with out it I would be lost

everything you are

thankful...

for you...

the husband

the father, the friend, i kept telling you yesterday,

i fell in love with you more,

the way you love your kids

the way you love me,

the way you can be a kid one second,

and the man of the house the next.

I am more blessed, because of you

more loved

more fulfilled

complete

so happy birthday, today, and everyday

I will be thankful for the day you were born,

with out this day, there would be no you,

love you!!

thankful days

am i totally weird that on day 6 i was just so thankful for my pepsi? it's my favorite, my treat to myself, some people love ice cream and chocolate, i love pepsi!



art work of my kids, to help remember the little hands that created this art.




thankful that my husband picked up my camera and got these shots!! i am never infront of the camera, and i love that i have these little treasures.

thankful for the gift and talent God has given me